Advice needed desperately. Depression setreline no sex drive and porn
Hi, I'm new to the forums, but I'm Desperate for advice.
I met my boyfriend online in September, and to say that he is awesome would be an understatement. He suffers from depression and in early November he was transferred to sertralin.
Immediately our sex life ended, and when I spoke to him about it and we looked at the side effects of sertrelin, he said that the loss of libido and sex drive was well known. He also told me that he was also suffering from ed.
Even though we'd only been together a month, I knew I was head over heels in love with him, and I told him that I would wait as long as it took to get better, and that still stands. We did get Viagra from the doctor, but he didn't find them helpful, as he said he still had no desire to do anything. No interest in making love.
However, I have now found out that although he says he has no sexual attraction, he has watched porn, and although I don't believe he masturbated to it, it ruins me as he does it secretly and so viciously deletes his Internet history. I've already met him several times. I don't have any problems with porn at all, and I use it regularly myself, but what hurts me is that he said he uses it to see if he can get aroused, but why doesn't he come to me instead?
If he didn't have a sex drive at all because of setreline, he would still be looking at it or could use it to try to get his sex drive back.
I've asked him many times if we can try, but he just refuses me, and as you can imagine, it kills my confidence and makes me wonder if he finds me attractive at all.
I love him so much, and he said that the last time he stopped taking pills, his sex drive returned. The doctor said they would start reducing the dosage to wean him off them in a month. We discussed this with the doctor, and I really believe that he doesn't have this attraction, but will he still have sexual urges from time to time, since when he is relaxed and asleep, he will try to become sexual and intimate and become very aroused, but he is asleep, which upsets me.
I was thinking of asking him to try watching porn together to see if it would make any difference.
Please, can I have your thoughts? Leaving it is not even something I would consider
actually seems to be a good idea))